Go Fuck Yourself: PW Celebrates Sex Toy Day

sex toys 009 (Medium)The dildos were spread out across PW’s conference table. “You’d think with the whole sex-toy thing I’d sell a lot of vibrators, but I really don’t,” says Jamie Mitchell, owner of Blush Parties, a 2-year-old start-up. Mitchell and her six employees attend bachelorette parties, bridal showers and girls’ nights out to play risque games and sell items from their product line. “Unlike some business owners, I have seen a dramatic increase in business,” Mitchell says. “I guess when people are strapped financially there is always sex, solo or with a partner.”

In honor of Sex Toy Day (Nov. 4, you didn’t know?) PW sat down with Mitchell, 33, to get some insight into her unusual line of work. She doesn’t look like a sex-toy expert, dressed business casual, skirt and sweater, her hair neatly pulled into a pony tail. But despite her company’s name, Mitchell shows no hint of shyness as she showcases her products. “This is the beaver,” she cheerfully explains, holding up a small red vibrator. “It’s dual action, it has clitoral stimulation. It vibrates, it twists and it rotates, 360 degrees. Depending on what your need or purpose is, this is great for a lot of people. It goes really quickly.”

We had discussed meeting at a neutral location, but Mitchell warned me in advance, “I am SURE we would be escorted out of a coffee shop.” So conference room it was, all dildos and lube:

Mitchell: When I do my parties, the first thing I ask is “who wants to smell my coochy?” (She pulls out a small bottle of goo.)

PW: Oh?

Mitchell: It’s a rash-free shave gel called Coochy . It’s like a conditioner. It actually softens the hair from the follicle. You can use it as a shave gel, any part of your body you want to shave. When you shave you don’t get the nasty red razor bumps.

(She picks up a small white dildo holding multicolored plastic rings.)

Mitchell: This right here is a fun game.

PW: Ring toss.

Mitchell: Ring toss. You go ahead, whoever gets three rings on, they get a prize, a free party, whatever. And here’s oral sex candy.

PW: Is that like Pop Rocks?

Mitchell: We do have a Pop Rocks-type candy but this isn’t it. Actually, if you swallow it it’ll numb your throat a little bit so if you have a gag reflex it will minimize that. You won’t be so numb you’re drooling. I have other products that are a little bit stronger that offer the same thing. They have a little bit of benzocaine, which is the same thing your dentist uses when he gives you a needle.

PW: Is this legal?

Mitchell: Yeah it’s legal. It’s not enough to get high or anything.

(She grabs a floppy white sleeve, drips some lube inside and slides it over the beaver vibrator.)

Mitchell: Here’s one of our male stimulators. This actually goes over really well. One of those things I can sell all night long. What this does is go over the penis, over the head and down the shaft. It’s a masturbation tool, but I also market this for my fellatio seminar– (at this point the beaver starts vibrating)– because you can also stroke the penis with it and suck on the head. You can do both at the same time and guys really like this. Put your finger in, you can feel the chambers inside and how it’s like a suction.

PW: Yep.

Mitchell: I hope you have a napkin.

PW: Did you say fellatio seminar?

Mitchell: It’s called head clinic 101.

PW: Is it a how-to? A demonstration?

Mitchell: Yeah. It’s not explicit. (laughs) There’s no live models. I give the ladies a pamphlet. They have a bound book that’s called Tickle His Pickle. It gives anatomy on the male penis and how the male body works. What to do, what not to do. Different techniques to do, and everybody gets one of these– (She thuds a huge purple dildo on the table. A suction cup on the bottom makes it stick while the tip quivers back and forth)– to take home to practice.

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Just your average dildo-filled rifle case. Top: Jamie Mitchell poses with a fellatio aid.

PW: How’d you get started in this business?

Mitchell: I was recently divorced, re-entering the workforce. Whatever I did, it needed to be something I could do from home. I was introduced to it when a lady walked up to me in Ikea. I was there with a friend of mine, saying, “these are some sexy dishes,” just goofing off, a raunchy private conversation. The lady walked up to me and said “I like the way you talk. Why don’t you have a party?” I was kind of like, eh. But I did, I had a great time, I saw how much money she made that night and I was hooked, I can do this. The products sell themselves. And I have the time to be available to my kids. My son is 6, my daughter 12.

PW: Do they know what you do for a living?

Mitchell: No. My daughter thinks I sell lotion and perfume and ladies clothes.

PW: Somewhat true.

Mitchell: I’m like Avon, like Mary Kay. I come to your house, do a little demonstration, we play games.

PW: Like Tupperware.

Mitchell: Like Tupperware. we laugh and have a good time, and that’s the party.

PW: How much can you make at a party?

Mitchell: I rarely walk away with less than $200. I’ve had parties where I walked away with $1200 or $1500.

PW: Profit?

Mitchell:
Profit.

PW: Who are at these parties? Is it mostly young people?

Mitchell: The 50-plus market? My best customers. They come back. Men and women of a certain age know what they want.

(We return to the vibrators.)

Mitchell: The only different between a $25 vibrator and a $100 vibrator is the motor. That’s what you’re paying for.

PW: Is it more intense?

Mitchell: Sometimes. The more expensive ones normally are. But who needs that much power? Really. If you need that much power you need to stop, because you become desensitized. And that’s not healthy. If you can only be stimulated from sex toys, you need to re-evaluate your sex life. You need to re-evaluate your body if you go to your physician and say I can’t have an orgasm, because you’re expecting a man to do this. (the head of the “jackrabbit” vibrator twirls in a circle)

PW: Rotate?

Mitchell: For your primary source of stimulation, if this is what you’re doing, no one’s ever going to be able to match it. You’re going to have to buy more and more expensive ones with bigger and bigger motors. It’s like a crack habit.

(She takes out a strange winged creature with some straps attached.)

Mitchell: This is a clitoral stimulator. You step into it like a panty, and tie it around. I don’t know if anyone would want to wear it to work, or whatever.

PW: Is that a moth, or a bird?

Mitchell: It’s a dolphin with butterfly wings, if you were able to crossbreed.

PW: And the beak’s where . . .

Mitchell: Try it. What you can do is, put it on the tip of your nose.

PW: Is this used?

Mitchell: It’s not used. Cleanliness is important. I go into women’s heath issues. A lot of women get chronic infections they never really address with their physicians. It’s a hygiene issue. If you use toys you have to clean them.

PW: My parents’ anniversary is coming up. Anything in particular you recommend?

Mitchell: You may not want to admit it, but they’re humping like bunnies.

10 Responses to “ Go Fuck Yourself: PW Celebrates Sex Toy Day ”

  1. Jamie says:

    Just a shameless plug, http://WWW.ILuvBlush.com ….Book a party TODAY!

    Jamie

  2. Arionne says:

    I am sooooo proud of Jamie… Good going lady! Bring about the independence of sex and free the world from the ugly stigma of toys! GO TOYS!!

  3. lex says:

    I was disappointed with this article. Mitchell says the only difference between a $25 or $100 toy is the motor?? Let’s talk about the materials sex toys are made of. Let’s talk about the dangers of jelly vs the safety of pure silicone. Why not stop selling benzocaine products that can harm your customers? Also, saying that sex toys will desensitize you isn’t true. Parties like these are not helping anyone who wants real information about healthy sex toy use and ways to improve what you’re already doing with your partner. Profit? Yes, you’ll get that, but your customers certainly won’t.

  4. Shauntae says:

    I have been to one of Jamie’s parties and she have been very informative about her products, care of here producs, use, cleaing, and my own perosnal health! I much rather use the non-motorized toys because they are less expensive and they make a lot a noise and I have children. I say KEEP DOING WHAT YOU DO JAMIE!

  5. Yvette says:

    Great job Jamie, I really enjoyed your presentation at one of your parties, we had fun and I feel like I was given some much needed info about my body! Your products are great and they are at a reasonable rate! You have always put safety first and I appreciate that! Keep up the good work!

  6. Lisa Clark says:

    I have had two Blush Parties with Jamie and she rocks! She is really professional and knows her products. I don’t have any complaints. I disagree with you Lex. Jamie could have easily sold me and my guests a bunch of things we didn’t need just to make a profit. She asks questions to find out your likes and dislikes and ONLY recommend products based on that. She has been honest with us and helped us make informed decisions about our purchases. Thats why I only purchase from her. Going to skanky and/or overpriced stores with “salespeople” trying to sell you everything you don’t need or want is the worst!

    Hats off to you Jamie. We love you and we love Blush Parties! ILUVBLUSH!

    Sincerely,

    Lisa and Harrison Clark

  7. Nancy says:

    Hey Jamie keep doing what you do! My husband loves our new bag of goodies and my GYN says all your products are safe for me to use with my sensitive body parts lol, no complaints from us! Mr. and Mrs Young!

  8. Shauntae says:

    I agree with Lisa, Jamie is very professional and has great knowledge of all of her products not once has she ever been unable to answer a question about her products. I do not agree with Lex either

  9. FELICIA says:

    FIRST OFF I WOULD LIKE TO GIVE MUCH APPRECIATION TO AARON KASE, THE WRITER OF THIS ARTICLE , FOR BOLDLY GOING WHERE MOST WRITERS WON’T IN FEAR OF WHAT OTHERS MAY THINK. NEXT, I WOULD LIKE LEAVE MUCH LOVE TO JAMIE MITCHELL, THE OWNER OF BLUSH PARTIES, YES HARD WORK DOES PAY OFF (NO POINT INTENDED). NOW ABOUT THE ARTICLE AND COMMENTS I DIDN’T AGREE WITH. THE ARTICLE IS A SENSITIVE SUBJECT, OBVIOUSLY TO SOME, BUT STILL RARE AND RAW IN ITS OWN FORM. ALTHOUGH THESE KIND OF PARTIES ARE NOTHING NEW, THEY ARE STILL GOING ON & STRONGER IN THIS “SEX-SELLS” DRIVEN WORLD WE’RE LIVING IN TODAY. WE ALL MUST REMEMBER THAT AT THE END OF THE DAY WE ARE GROWN FOLKS AND THAT’S WHO ATTENDING THESE PARTIES AND IT’S ONLY OBVIOUS THAT SHE WOULDN’T BE SELLING A PRODUCT WHERE SHE’S NOT ALSO PROMOTING HEALTHY SEX TOY USAGE WHEN USING THESE PRODUCTS. IF THEY NEED FURTHER KNOWLEDGE ON SEX TOY SAFETY THEY ARE OLD ENOUGH TO RESEARCH THAT ON THEIR OWN. NO ONE IS TELLING THEM THAT THERE IS NO NEED TO CONTINUE NORMAL HYGIENE HEALTH WHILE USING THESE PRODUCTS. THEY ARE SIMPLY SEXUAL ENHANCEMENTS THEY ARE NOT USED TO REPLACE ONE’S SEX LIFE. IT’S COMMON KNOWLEDGE TO OBVIOUSLY PRACTICE SAFE HYGIENE WHEN USING THESE PRODUCTS JUST AS ANY OTHER PRODUCTS AS SUCH. CONGRATULATIONS JAMIE KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK AND I CONTINUE TO WISH YOU MUCH BLESSINGS OF SUCCESS.

  10. Myriam says:

    Congratulations Jamie on your business, I have always been the one to think bigger is better! After listening to you speak during one of your parties I now get the same pleasure or even more pleasure from the small things in life. It was about getting to know my body! Thank you Jamie and you will be hearing from me soon!

    Myriam Ortiz

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