Some Say Men Are the Real Victims of Domestic Violence

In mid-May, the U.S. House of Representatives was tasked with re-authorizing the Violence Against Women Act. Originally put into place in 1994, the bill provides added funding into the investigation and prosecution of violent crimes against women, like spousal abuse. This year, under House GOP control, the final version of the bill was extremely watered down. It would have added a provision in which abusers could know their victims called for help. It also stripped out all the protections for the LGBT community.

One of the groups opposed to the Senate’s more female-friendly version of the VAWA was the National Coalition for Men, who noted in a public statement, “Opposing versions, by omission and lack of specificity generally exclude men, particularly heterosexual men, regardless of specious arguments to the contrary.” The Coalition then, says the Violence Against Women Act is unfair because straight men, they believe, are more often the real victims of domestic violence.

Well, the Coalition has a Philadelphia liaison. His name is Bill Gravitz. He did not answer our request for comment on this issue, but did forward our email to Harry Crouch, the president of the organization.

“Men in Philadelphia are and will be similarly situated and adversely affected as other men in the U.S. by VAWA, regardless of the version, because legislators apparently favor women over men,” Crouch writes to PW, “and treat male and female victims of domestic violence unequally, even though males and females are equally adversely affected by domestic violence. We feel that H.R. 4970 [The Republican version of the bill] simply offers better protections for all involved, especially victims of false accusations which is a heinous form of domestic violence.”

Crouch concluded his letter to say he hopes to soon have a Philadelphia chapter for the group, with Gravitz’s assistance.

7 Responses to “ Some Say Men Are the Real Victims of Domestic Violence ”

  1. Simon says:

    especially victims of false accusations which is a heinous form of domestic violence. This statement describes the most horrable form of domestic violence. Men are having their lives and reputations DESTROYED! That is beyond repair and most of this abuse of the system is because of the financial incentives that are given to lawyers (they want to generate billable hrs). Many lawyers today instruct their clients to lay claim to a domestic violence restraining order in order to get a jump on the divorce litigation. These lawyers need to be jailed and permanently disbarred. There is no rehabilitation for this kind of behavior. Lwyers are given the trust of the public and they betray the public for greed . Additionally , many of the domestic violence women centers are there to promote domestic violence (by creating false cases) and telling women what lies to say in order to move the court. These women center need to be shut down and a general DV center established for all people. THere must be checks and balances so false accusations are not the norm. Funding for these programs must stop completely. By now if there is not enough business to sustain a center they they need to be shut down. O

  2. Guest says:

    Thank you Mr. LoBasso for bringing a little balance to this issue. Here’s one lone Lancaster county guy’s battle for justice: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6vgGoCYGUx0 Be nice to see men like him who get the shaft thanks to false accusations get their day in the sun.

  3. Paul M. Clements says:

    Men are victimized by real violence by women, in rates equal to, or slightly higher than vice-versa. Men suffer greater injuries because women resort to weapons in 82% of physical assaults.
    Moreover, it is almost always the woman who files a false complaint.

    One time president of the MA Bar Assoc, Elaine Epstein, put it this way in the bar assoc. newsletter: “Everyone knows that restraining orders and orders to vacate are granted to virtually all who apply….
    In many cases, allegations of abuse are now used for tactical advantage.”

    So, men are not only abused physically, they are the ones most often abused legally.

  4. how do you substantiate the following claim?

    “The Coalition then, says the Violence Against Women Act is unfair because straight men, they believe, are more often the real victims of domestic violence.”

    placed after the sentence about how VAWA excludes men, it appears to be a non sequitor

  5. Haywood says:

    “straight men, they believe, are more often the real victims of domestic violence.”

    No…they believe they are ALSO victims of domestic violence. You have a bunch of groups constantly painting DV as something that men do to women, and that mischaracterization has resulted in some pretty awful legislation…like “primary aggressor” laws (which presume that men are automatically the abuser when it’s unclear) and the Duluth Model of DV (which teaches that “DV is patriarchal”, that only men abuse and that women hit men it’s because he had it coming).

    Seriously this is absurd. Oh my god some people are trying to raise awareness about male victims of DV…let’s strawman them by claiming they think women aren’t victimized too!

    PW it’s no wonder your paper is dying when you engage in yellow journalism like this. I know The City Paper isn’t much better, but they would never publish this sort of drivel.

  6. Sig says:

    This is a deliberately dishonest article.

    VAWA is based in radical feminist theory so it excludes the most of the abused population – the male half along, the children of abusive women and the LGBT community.

    Yet pro feminist people have always depicted calls for a non discriminatory, evidence and science services to replace their woo-woo and misinformation based system as some sinister agenda, when in reality, its VAWA and the radical feminism behind it that’s sinister.

  7. Victor says:

    “The Coalition then, says the Violence Against Women Act is unfair because straight men, they believe, are more often the real victims of domestic violence.”

    A deliberately false statement. The NCFM believes, correctly, that men are EQUALLY the victims of domestic violence and laws like VAWA fail to address that at all. Let alone with the sympathy and seriousness with which it treats female victims. There are no programs, no federally funded men’s shelters, and most DV shelters actually turn men away. Men and women are both the real victims of domestic violence, but only men are the victims of our domestic violence laws and system.

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