Comments on: Becca’s Betrayal/Marriage

By: Polly

Polly — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 00:42:27 +0000

Wow. What losers. Apparently the concept of the marriage (the rest of your life) rather than the wedding (just one day) never occurred to them.

By: McBeth

McBeth — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 06:43:19 +0000

PND = regret for having spent far too much attention and expectation on one single day’s event.

To be fair, ‘PND’ is a lot easier to remember than ‘RFHSFTMAAEOOSDE’.

By: Becca Trabin

Becca Trabin — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 15:53:22 +0000

How incendiary!

Readers, this is what happened:

I spent all morning in the library researching schizophrenia so I could be up to snuff for Liz’s blog. Then I showed up at work, totally psyched to delve into heady concepts about mental illness, and was sidetracked when a few editors liked a paragraph I wrote on Facebook about eco-friendly shoes. I spent 10 minutes on it, then spent hours writing a mental health post about the fear of aging.

But when I finished the post and had Liz read it, it turned out to be too crazy to post! Or just a little too rough around the edges. So I fell short and will have to do better next time. Sigh. Supervisors these days.

By: Tiana

Tiana — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 14:06:46 +0000

The title to this entry led me to believe that Becca had been married.

By: phillygrrl

phillygrrl — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 05:59:34 +0000

I’ve had so many friends that got married this summer (or are going to be married this winter) and there are definitely some who have had more than a slight case of the jitters. That’s why some of them are going to city hall, hosting a few friends at a local restaurant and calling it a day. Good luck, ladies!

By: Larry

Larry — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 03:09:48 +0000

So THAT was my ex’s “ex”-cuse for withholding during the honeymoon.

(And for several years afterwards …)

By: Dano MacNamarrah

Dano MacNamarrah — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 22:23:22 +0000

I hesitate to belittle anyone’s pain. I am sorry that women, who have dreamed of the bliss of married life, find it less than their fantasy. But that may be at the core of it.

It seems that many highly anticipated events result in let-downs, emotional hang-overs and unforeseen strife.

As women, we grow up with conflicting messages. We can have a career, a family, fulfillment of dreams and more, more, MORE!

Women chose to wear white to their church wedding, when the virginal status is at best, doubtful. The White Wedding is too often a myth and clothed by fairy tales, with marital bliss tacked on.

All relationships take work, which is uncomfortable for many of us. But if we wrap our relationship in a glittery package, hoping that when it’s opened, it will continue to shine, then we will lose.

If we take time to know our potential life-partners, if we are truly honest and divested, then we will bless our marriage more than a single, expensive and sometimes, regrettable day.

Oh, and can I apply to be an intern? You have my email and we have mutual friends who might even be willing to vouch for me!